More often than not, self help books, lifestyle advice and guru tips often point towards the importance, if not necessity, of informing us exactly what we need to do in order to live a successful confident, happy and balanced life. Yet whilst I highly respect self help books and advice, the question has to be asked; is it possible that you could end up drowning in a sea of counterproductive and unrealistic lifestyle expectations.
Read More“It was a fluke!’ ‘I was just lucky’ ‘If I can do it anyone can’, ‘It was someone else’s hard work or talent’, ‘I had a lot of support’ ‘I’ll be found out’ ‘I’m a fraud’ ‘I’m not that talented’ ‘I’m a one-hit wonder’ ‘I’m not that good’ ‘I could do better’ ‘I was in the right place at the right time’ ‘I don’t belong in the VIP room’ ‘how did I get here?’ ‘I’ll fail or disappoint’.
Does any of this sound familiar to you? If so, it could be a sign that you’ve experienced imposter syndrome.
Worrying about what others think of us can take up a huge amount of time and energy on a daily basis. We often go round and round in circles analysing what is happening in relationships (even down to the tiniest details)as well as how both we and the other person react to each other and potentially surmising and reviewing how successful each personal and professional relationship might be.
Read MoreAre you a planner? If so, you’ll know what it’s like to plan for every situation. Perhaps you have a plan A, a plan B and even a plan C? I know that I certainly love the whole process of planning (especially the stationary), the setting out of goals, the taking action and actually achieving those goals. Yet the truth is that we cannot plan for everything and change is inevitable!
Read MoreDo you ever find yourself undervaluing yourself and overcompensating for either yourself or others?
If you do, it can be a big sign that you’re experiencing low confidence and self-doubt.
In today’s world, it’s very common to feel the huge pressure to both acknowledge and satisfy or exceed high expectations. You may even feel the pressure to match or outshine the competition posed by others and of course the biggest competition you face, which is of course yourself!
We’ve all been there. It can irritate you, frustrate you, prevent you from moving forwards or gaining perspective and generally keep you going round in circles. Yep, it's the dreaded hang-up.
The truth is that hang-ups don’t just appear out of thin air. They are either deeply rooted in our lives or triggered by our own experiences. You may even find yourself consciously or unconsciously reliving or picking up other people’s baggage.
Read MoreHave you ever felt stuck in a rut? Or perhaps you feel as though you lack clarity, direction or purpose? It may even seem that life or work has become staid and you either find yourself living a monotonous day-to-day pattern, or perhaps you’ve become bored or stuck with the status quo and need to feel inspired again?
It’s no secret that at one time or another we all go through this, including me!
How many of us experience a fear of rejection? I would guess that most, if not all of us have experienced this at one time or another.
In a world of social media, ‘likes’, and splashing our lives across media platforms we are living in a world where sometimes it may feel like we are all part of one giant and inescapable PR scoop focused on the idea of being ‘liked’, accepted or followed.
Read MoreHow do you respond to change and the unexpected?
Are you a planner? If so, you’ll know what It’s like to plan for every situation. Perhaps you have a plan A, a plan B and even a plan C? I know that I certainly love the whole process of planning- the stationary, setting out goals, taking action and actually achieving those goals. Yet the truth is that we cannot plan for everything and change is inevitable!
Read MoreHave you ever encountered that person who is a great orator, especially when it comes to highlighting their skills, role or work and personal achievements? Perhaps they advertently or inadvertently compare or contrast themselves to other people or even yourself, making themselves known to be a leader, the successful one or the specialist’? And perhaps they’re even the first to be heard, seen or talked about whether in your own social circle, professionally or across social media?
Read MoreHave you ever stepped into the VIP room and yet underneath you’ve felt undeserving of your success and happiness? Perhaps you may feel crippled by the fear that, despite your success, achievements and efforts, you have been lucky, and you will be found out to be fraud?
Read MoreHave you ever wondered what your life would be like if and when you acquire everything? Perhaps you’ve been planning to buy, or you already own that luxury home, Chanel Wardrobe, or state of the art car in the hope that you that these will improve your life and make you happy?
Read MorePerhaps you think of the context of change? Are you currently experiencing political, social, cultural or religious changes? Or perhaps you are experiencing different directions within your professional and public life, personal lifestyle or relationships?
Read MoreWow! It’s a big question and probably one with many answers. However, perhaps certain images or goals spring to mind?
Read MoreWatch as I run through, Who are you away from the spotlight? + 6 top tips.
Read MoreI’ve been there! You work hard day and night to support your Director, Manager or CEO’s personal and professional needs and, before you know it, the day has ended and you may have to either finish loose ends or you may even feel too exhausted to even contemplate your own well-being, dreams or goals. Certainly, what you do is extremely important, if not integral to support another person’s success!
Read MoreWhat springs to your mind when you think of success? Perhaps it’s wealth, ranking, having a dispensable income so that you can purchase your dream car or home and jet-setting across the world for both work and pleasure. Or perhaps success means having a close circle of family and friends, a career promotion, a cosy home, taking a few holidays a year, or simply the fact that you go to sleep and wake up feeling content with your life and yourself?
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